One of my favorite movies coming up is The Color Purple, and in it one of the female characters says a line that would follow me everywhere as I get older.
“Everything wanna be loved. Us sing and dance, and holla just wanting to be loved.”
Up until this point in my life, I never thought about love. After watching The Color Purple, I would start to think about what it means to love and how we behave when we would go through the emotions of love. Meeting someone, having a crush, confessing your feelings, and dating – I could go on and on, but I think you all understand.
The point is, we all not only want to be loved, but we are also deserving of love. Which is why when people ask me what genre I write, I tell them proudly that I write romance. Because even with all the advancements of the world we live in now, some still think that fat people – especially fat black women – are not deserving of love at all. They are not who I write for, so I do not give them much thought.
I write for women like me.
Women, especially fat black women, who have been told repeatedly by any and everyone that saw them that they are not entilted to fall in love. That because they do not fit into whatever box of beauty the society that they live in tells them, they should be never expect romance. And if someone decides to ‘be brave’ or lusts for them, that they should consider themselves lucky and accept whatever conditions that person offers them, even if it means receiving less than they desevere.
I write for them, for us, and for me.
To remind them and myself that it is okay to want love. That it is okay to have standards when it comes to love and relationships. My main female characters look like me, and that is a revolutionary act in itself. The main male characters and stories change because my experiences and imagination change. And I love that about my writing! Just like the female characters from The Color Purple, we all are doing what we can to find our way towards who we truly are. We are finding out what love means to us and how we want to be loved. Because love is for everybody.
So, to those of you that read my work and enjoy it, thank you.
Thank you for joining me on this journey, and I hope you find the love that you want in this world.
“Continue reading, continue writing, and continue loving the process.”